Turn The Volume Down on Your Inner Voice by Reading The Untethered Soul

Have you ever watched Super Soul Sunday?

Oprah Winfrey interviews those who are first in their class. People known as thought leaders, and spiritual beings, who provide hope and revelations.

Many people have been on the show. To name a few, she’s interviewed: Eckhart Tolle, Brenee Brown, Don Miguel Ruiz, Michael Singer, Gary Zukav, and the late Maya Angelou.

Before children, I’d make a day out watching Super Soul Sunday. I relaxed on my couch, sipping my coffee, with my feet up. Learning from these authors, speakers, and sometimes religious figures. It felt like church to me. Fully inspired.

Afterward, often, I’d buy the book of the person she interviewed and devour it.

One book, in particular, stuck with me through my years, especially after giving birth to my sons.

Reading the Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer helped me silence and understand my inner critic. The source of a lot of my anxiety.

My thoughts.

I’d bring up memories of the past, relieve them, talk about them inside my head, and re-feel them again.

You know what it’s like when your thoughts don’t stop, and you can’t sleep no matter how hard you try. I was living in that tortured space. It was a space that was my reality, not the here and now. Unable to live the life in front of me in the present moment.

This book helped me understand and reinforce that I’m not the voice inside my head. We hear the voice, but it’s not us. And we don’t have to listen to it.

I don’t have to listen to it relieve dumb mistakes or tell me that I’m not good enough to write. I don’t have to listen to it tell me I’m fat, dull, or unlikeable, pushing us further down the rabbit hole.

In fact, not listening to your inner critic was reinforced when I saw a therapist for postpartum depression.

I was in a deep dark well of overwhelm, feeling pitiful and unable to cope. Every little thing I had to do felt like an unbearable burden. I didn’t think I could go on, and I told myself as much repeatedly. Until the lines of reality were blurred, and the cycle continued.

My therapist, bless her heart, reminded me not to listen to the self-sabotaging critic. She said, that’s your voice, but you don’t have to listen to it: simple words, but a significant impact on me. And like that, I woke up from a bad dream and was able to move forward.

The helps you understand how to get out of your head and decrease everything centered on you by noticing how you’re feeling and acting when you believe you have problems. The author says, “your inner growth is completely dependent upon the realization that the only way to find peace and contentment is to stop thinking about yourself.” Understanding it’s not all about you and picking up on your inner monologue is your awakening to notice the voice talking. You are the noticer, the observer. Awakened to what is your inner self of consciousness.

And from this perspective, noticing the negative talk, the replaying of old memories, and the cyclical thoughts plaguing us, we can take a deep breath and turn down the volume on the inner voice, and a way forward is revealed.

There is much more to this book, but the biggest takeaway for me was getting beyond the inner voice. It helped me more than once overcome anxiety, depression, a new look at life, and a new perspective.

And I hope it does the same for you.




We are in this together. Let’s create and connect. I enjoy the creative process, writing, learning, and helping others. amiedestefano.com

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Amie DeStefano

Amie DeStefano

We are in this together. Let’s create and connect. I enjoy the creative process, writing, learning, and helping others. amiedestefano.com

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